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11 Aug 2014 07:42 #1
by Judith Staff
The Bus Story was created by Judith Staff
I saw this article online on Friday night and then it was the leader in the Family Section of The Guardian newspaper on Saturday.
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/au...ublic-do-you-step-in
It is written by a person who saw someone being unkind to their small child on a bus......and felt unsure as to how to respond....and finally took the step to say something.
I think this scenario - visible in public places every day, is saturated with opportunities to use the Protective Behaviours process. The Two Themes - we all have the right to feel safe all the time -- including the child, the parent and everyone on the bus. Secondly, we can talk with someone about anything - even if it is to offer some support to a stranger or to question their actions.
As for Feelings Thoughts and Behaviour, the person observing was feeling unsettled so she thought what her choices were before acting upon them. I think the behaviour is the tricky bit here - people probably feel upset and have lots of thoughts for the parent and the child, and then perhaps feel stifled as to what to do.
Unwritten Rules play a starring role -- is it the 'done' thing to comment on someone else's parenting???
People advocating on behalf of children - other people's children - that is an unwritten rule which can be challenged, in my humble opinion.
As for the Strategies - the most prominent, I think, are Network Review - the opportunity to perhaps be an instant network person for the child and the parent; Protective Interruption; Risking on Purpose; and The Language of Safety.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if all children everywhere knew that they could rely on all adults around them to respond, doing what they could to safeguard children everytime? Perhaps putting PBs into practice in this type of situation can help.
www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/au...ublic-do-you-step-in
It is written by a person who saw someone being unkind to their small child on a bus......and felt unsure as to how to respond....and finally took the step to say something.
I think this scenario - visible in public places every day, is saturated with opportunities to use the Protective Behaviours process. The Two Themes - we all have the right to feel safe all the time -- including the child, the parent and everyone on the bus. Secondly, we can talk with someone about anything - even if it is to offer some support to a stranger or to question their actions.
As for Feelings Thoughts and Behaviour, the person observing was feeling unsettled so she thought what her choices were before acting upon them. I think the behaviour is the tricky bit here - people probably feel upset and have lots of thoughts for the parent and the child, and then perhaps feel stifled as to what to do.
Unwritten Rules play a starring role -- is it the 'done' thing to comment on someone else's parenting???
People advocating on behalf of children - other people's children - that is an unwritten rule which can be challenged, in my humble opinion.
As for the Strategies - the most prominent, I think, are Network Review - the opportunity to perhaps be an instant network person for the child and the parent; Protective Interruption; Risking on Purpose; and The Language of Safety.
Wouldn't it be wonderful if all children everywhere knew that they could rely on all adults around them to respond, doing what they could to safeguard children everytime? Perhaps putting PBs into practice in this type of situation can help.
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